1. You do not need anyone to be happy. You do not need that boy who’s never kept a single promise or that girl who’s always cancelling plans at the last minute to like you, or love you, to be happy. You do not need your ex to be happy. You do not need your family to be happy, either. If any of these people cause you to feel unhappy with yourself, or about who you are- fuck ‘em. Find people who love you for you, find people who recognize how wonderful you are, and hold on to them, not the poisonous people of your past.
2. Subsequently, learn to be content on your own. Learn to be okay with being alone. Take yourself out for coffee, have a day in and hold a movie marathon, and don’t mistake being alone for being lonely. It’s okay to be alone; it’s better to be alone and content than in a group of people that make you feel terrible.
3. Do it for yourself. Don’t spend thirty minutes doing your makeup or getting ready to go out for someone who won’t notice or care. Do it for yourself. Don’t lose the weight, don’t take up the cooking class, don’t study for that test for anyone else’s approval or to earn their love, affection, or attention. Do it for yourself. This life is too short to be doing things you don’t want to do for people who don’t care that much anyways.
4. If you don’t like something, change it. If you want something, go after it. If you’re unhappy with your weight, for example, then do what you can for yourself. Trade in the junk food for a wrap; take the stairs. Take a walk. Go for a run. It takes willpower, it takes determination, but above all, it takes action. No one ever got that toned stomach by pinning different ab workouts on Pinterest for two hours. If you don’t like your room, re-organize it. Just take action.
5. It’s okay to not have a plan. There’s no age where you have to have everything figured out by; there’s no day where you have to have your whole life planned out. Know that being prepared for what is to come is important, but also remember that ensuring your happiness now is just as important. It’s okay to not know what your major will be, what college you’ll be going to, where you’ll be moving next May. It’s okay to not have a plan. Everything will work out, no major break-down necessary.
6. Pursue happiness. It is difficult for some of us to leave behind our constant state of depression or sadness; but it is for the best. Pursue happiness. You will be thankful you did."